Confidence builder!

Check out this video, look at the confidence level in that guy. If that is the amount of confidence in you, then life will always be your way!

Luck favors the strong; there is no place in the world for the weaklings. Mentally strong men always get things done the way they want it. Now you know what you should do 😀

Cheers,
Natty Boy

Sissy / Wussy behaviour

‘There is nothing in this world called the truth, everything depends on the perspective!’ This is the universal rule. Likewise with women too, there is nothing that is called the perfect thing to do, everything depends on the situation, the person concerned, the timing, the place etc. So something might work at a particular situation, might not work at another, so it doesn’t mean that you have made a mistake.
I insisted on practice in my previous post just to lay emphasis that once you have good exposure, you can read Women within seconds. So you would know by instinct the answers for the questions that might occur to you… like what, when, how etc.

There are certain things that are globally true to turn-off a woman, things when said and done portray you as a needy guy, who is craving for attention from women, a guy who has always been a loser.

1) Kissing her ass too early
This shows you as a person who has never been with women all your lives, and you are god damn desperate to have her. Don’t agree with her on whatever she says even though you don’t approve of it. Be the normal you; treat her like another friend of yours.
a) Going after her
b) Accepting everything she says
c) Being very nice to her
d) Getting her gifts and spending lots of money
On the whole being really uninteresting! A strict NO to them.

2) Bitching about women or Arguing for the sake of it
Another mad activity men do, just for the sake of argument saying that women suck etc. remember everyone wants love, no one can live without it. Don’t try to act smart saying women are incapable creatures. Don’t argue just to show your superiority over her. Remember women are smart, they can easily evaluate you. She will easily understand that you are trying to build your confidence by downsizing her. Meaning you are not good enough, you are trying to fake-it.

3) Talking about how great you have been with women
A loser guys method. Beating their own drums saying how many girlfriends they have had in their past. Give me a break, why would I care what shit you did in the past. Stop making up stories just to show yourself as a macho in front of her.

4) Getting upset easily
If little things are going to be taken to heart, and you are gonna be upset, am sorry you will have to change. When with women, there is always a lot of sarcasm in the air. She wouldn’t actually mean to hurt you.

5) Can’t make your own decisions
You can’t make decisions, implies you are not good enough to lead her. It doesn’t mean that it’s your say always. Give her a chance, if she is going to say ‘Your wish’ make a quick decision, it’s your call now. Don’t respond to that saying ‘its ok, you tell what you wanna do’ etc.

6) Doing things to get noticed
This again goes with point three, don’t overdo. If someone has a little doubt that you are trying hard, it means you really are.

Be chilled out at all times, don’t worry about anything. And trust me, women can easily evaluate men, so if you are trying to cheat her, she will surely get a hint and will take you for a ride. And secondly you can’t progress well without actually caring for her, you can’t fake it. You are not worthy enough to have a woman if you aren’t serious about it. Subtle hints are well noted by them. Watch out.

Cheers,
Natty Boy

Practice makes Perfect!

I am extremely sorry for the delay. Something I noticed recently is that many people are aware of a lot of things that need to be done to keep it working with women, but they don’t have enough practice and they end up making a fool of themselves in reality.

Like the saying goes ‘Practice makes Perfect’, it’s high time you realize the importance of practicing it out there. It’s the practical knowledge that eventually counts. A girl is going to be impressed ONLY by the way you act. So better get your asses off and go and practice.
Just try to start off conversations first. Start doing it with random women. When in a book store you can ask a woman how good a book is, like the way you would if there is a man standing next to you. The more you practice, the quicker the boy-girl barrier will vanish. And in course of time you will lose all your nervousness.

You always learn from your mistakes. The more you mess up, the more you would learn. And nothing is as good as learning through practice. A baby learns to walk only by falling, likewise… You surely won’t have a problem that is unsolvable. You surely can find a solution for everything. So start working on converting your weaknesses into strengths.

Always bear in mind A SMALL AMOUNT OF PRACTICE IS WORTH MORE THAN LARGE AMOUNTS OF KNOWLEDGE! Keep it working, until later

Cheers,
Natty Boy

The ‘Feel-good’ formula

Let me tell one thing which is very very important. Don’t ever go and ask a girl for tips. They don’t know it themselves and they often end up confusing you. Like I already said, their language is something different which is not easily understood by men. Some women won’t agree with certain things mentioned here. That’s because their interpretation is different. So don’t ever follow what a girl tells you.

The entire society is so damn wussified that it has reached the heights of desperation. This will only ruin your chances with women. If you turn out to be a needy person, women would definitely lose interest in you. Don’t ever think that you don’t have a girl to hang out with… the more the thought, the needier you become. When women are around you do what is required and enjoy, else enjoy the rest. Don’t think about it, or complain. Life is short, enjoy every bit of it. Don’t waste time thinking about something you don’t have at present, you will surely get it sometime.

No loser statements!
Some guys know that they have always sucked with women. They give out loser statements like ‘I am proud to be single’ etc. saying this is hammering into women’s head that you are a loser; you have always sucked with women. A guy who is really proud to be single will never say it. So don’t think you are one big macho and if you were to leave such statements women would think you are hard to get and will fall for you.

Make a girl feel good.
Always make a girl feel good when you are around. You shouldn’t work to get her, or pick her up but always work to make her feel good. She should have enjoyed every moment with you, every single moment. Maybe when she gets back home, she should recollect every good thing you said. She should be telling her friend that you were a ‘nice’ guy. Again nice doesn’t mean that you did whatever she asked you to. Nice meaning you came off as an interesting person to her. Make her laugh her ass off. Its only when she laughs, her defense mechanism is at bay.

Erase the idea of hitting on women.
The thought of picking up women makes one work for something. You have your target set, that you need to take her phone number today. When the target is set, you start working to achieve your goal. So eventually you end up working to get the woman. This guarantees failure. Just make sure she feels good when she is around, nothing else is expected out of you. Don’t keep bugging her and especially sarcasm, works at times but not always. Don’t be sarcastic with every sentence you say, it will become predictable. If something doesn’t happen forget it. Getting her number, email etc must happen naturally. If it doesn’t happen fine, go ahead. There are many more women waiting for you to make them feel good, move on.

Women don’t think they feel it, I say this quite often. You should have made them feel good about you. This is how the ‘feel good’ formula works. Do leave your comments only in the HASH OUT page. I shall talk about what you shouldn’t do in my next post. Actions that would instantly make women lose interest in you. Until later, have fun.

Cheers,
Natty Boy

Save yourself from messing up your life

This one is a superbly written article,
read through each one of them, get it right into you!

1. Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel; whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either. You didn’t cause them. Only your actions are directly under your control. They’re the only proper cause of pleasure or shame.
2. Let go of worrying. It often makes things worse. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. When you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come.
3. Ease up on the internal life commentary. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you. Usually they’re no better informed on the subject; and they care about it far less than you do. You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe.
4. Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway?
5. Give up on feeling guilty. Guilt changes nothing. It may make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce anything new in your life. If you feel guilty about something you’ve done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and try not to do so again. Then let it go. If you’re feeling guilty about what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. That’s insane.
6. Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you. Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy. Events or people are simply events or people. They can’t make you anything. You have to do that for yourself. Whatever emotions arise in you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too busy thinking about themselves (and worry what you are are thinking and saying about them) to be concerned about you.
7. Stop keeping score. Numbers are just numbers. They don’t have mystical powers. Because something is expressed as a number, a ratio or any other numerical pattern doesn’t mean it’s true. Plenty of lovingly calculated business indicators are irrelevant, gibberish, nonsensical, or just plain wrong. If you don’t understand it, or it’s telling you something bizarre, ignore it. There’s nothing scientific about relying on false data. Nor anything useful about charting your life by numbers that were silly in the first place.
8. Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned. The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started. Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start, throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality.
9. Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own
   decisions. To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot. It’s their life. They have to live it. You can’t do it for them; nor can you stop them from messing it up if they’re determined to do so. The job of a supervisor is to help and supervise. Only control-freaks and some others with a less serious mental disability fail to understand this.
10. Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you
    give through your words and actions. If your personality isn’t likeable today, don’t worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s personality in one place is a determined effort on their part—usually through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are, make yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your way.

Cheers,
Natty Boy

(Source : lifehack.org)

Introducing the ‘HASH – OUT’ page

Now ‘dating’ related discussions can happen at the new ‘hash out’ page. Any topic pertaining to the subject can be brought out. Please don’t write long comments. Make it as short as possible.

There are certain procedures you need to follow; it’s been mentioned in the page as well.
If you want to start a new topic
Just write ‘new topic’ in the first line and write the topic you want to discuss from the second line onwards and submit the comment.
If you wanna reply to an old topic
Just mention the comment number in the first line and reply to the topic.
If you wanna reply to some person
Again mention the comment number in the first line without fail and reply. However mentioning the name is not necessary.

I guess this will surely help those who want to have an interactive session. This page is actually made because it will remain as an archive of all the discussions made in the blog, and will benefit new readers.
Please ensure your comments under the blog post are related to the posting. Any other comment must be made in the Hash Out page.

Cheers,
Natty Boy

Making Conversations

 

Lots of expectations for the new post I guess, so I thought I will talk about making conversations with women which is the next important thing. To those who have not read the previous post, please read it before you proceed with this. Attitude comes first which when finely tuned puts the rest in place. Once it is mastered, you will know how to proceed with things.

Perhaps Jimi Hendrix was right when he made ‘Foxy Lady’. Women always keep testing men. They don’t realize that they are doing this, but they do it. And if you don’t happen to answer in the ‘correct’ way, they end up not feeling ‘it’ for you. Their tests are very deceptive. You must fall under the radar.

Don’t think too much, too much is too bad
Every guy makes the big mistake thinking about the consequences. Don’t keep thinking what she would have thought of me, did I make a mistake? Was she hurt in the bargain? Will she ever going to talk to me again? Have I said the right thing? Did I go overboard today? These are things which you needn’t pay a lot of attention to. Women don’t think about you, they don’t analyze things. They feel it or they don’t.

If you happen to have the powerful personality, a good conversation happens automatically. You would know what to do, when to do, how to do the necessary things. Make an interesting intelligent conversation, try to be as funny as possible, and don’t think too much about what you have said. Be a little rude at times, treat her like a bratty little sister and not like a spectacle, with utmost care (remove her from that lofty position). Be dominant at the same time don’t be manipulative.
Be a ‘cockatoo’ young man, who is really very funny.
Manly, humorous, unpredictable and confident are the traits of the ‘Real’ Man. Don’t ever come across as accommodative. You need not adjust yourself to impress her. So your conversation happens such that it proves you have the required qualities.

Spontaneity wins!
This fact must be hammered into your heads. You don’t pick up women, you meet them. So there is nothing called the pick-up lines. You make them feel chemistry. The best way to do this is by being the unpredictable. It involves a little teasing, complimenting, very very little bragging (with sarcasm pertaining to the situation), and super sarcastic yet friendly ad-libs. Also give her a little time to react, you don’t keep talking. Don’t give her the feeling of listening to the radio.
But everything said and done must be spontaneous.

Like I already said, confidence is the sexiest trait in man. You shouldn’t portray yourself as insecure. Don’t talk about yourself. No preening! Make her talk about her; women always love to talk about themselves. Ask her about her childhood, she would walk on air. Confident men never swash, they don’t talk about their greatness, the high paying job they have, the celebrities they know etc… Don’t ever try to convince a woman to like you, it doesn’t happen at all. Don’t even attempt telling good things about you so that she is convinced that you’re the best one she could have ever asked for. NO!

NO Negativity!
Negativity has got serious consequences. As mentioned in the previous post, you always need to be positive, never worry about the results whatsoever. Avoid thoughts and situations where you might think ‘I may not get her’. Don’t think too much. Just move on, have fun. Your topics of discussion should also not have things that are negative. For example, don’t talk about an interesting theft that happened in your neighborhood, however interesting it might be. A lot of men make these mistakes, the girl might enjoy it but in the end it isn’t going to be of any use to her knowing about the theft or a mysterious murder. No issue with a negative theme!
Don’t talk about religion, or politics. They usually can end up in contradictory views and you might end up fighting for nothing. If you change side and support her argument, you end up showing yourself as an ass kisser.

Making conversations with women is really very important. This is the deciding factor of any relationship. If you happen to come out as an interesting person, she would want more of you. And what will make you come out as interesting?
Pretty simple, what is it that makes a movie interesting, the unpredictability! Do what is not expected out of you and see what happens.

Cheers,
Natty Boy

Attitude, the Killer

The mind set is the first and foremost thing that needs to be perfect. When you approach a woman, you should always be in a positive frame of mind. Let your confidence level be high. Dress well, use a good deo (no bad odor) etc. these little things actually will help you enhance your confidence. And confidence is the Sexiest trait in man! It shows that you are not easily intimidated by her. It creates attraction. And Attraction is not a choice.

You must ERASE the fact that women are some kind of a goal that you need to achieve. You always tend to keep women in those lofty positions, come on man. They are humans too… they talk the same way like you… they live a life like you.
Even a woman like a man puts in a lot of time for her final outfit. A haircut, facial, then make-up, thinking of what to wear for long, then wear it to perfection for hours on end. Why would she do all this? To look good in front of a mirror? Obviously not! If no guy bothers to look at her, what a blow to her ego it would be. About ten to fifteen man hours go wasted! She wants to get noticed too! You are the prize; she must always work to ensure that you are interested in her. It’s not the other way.

Live for the present!
Women always like men who live for the present. Maan, it’s a Present! Don’t waste it. What men usually do is once they start talking, they start dreaming. They start thinking what his friends would say if they happen to see him with her. What a Macho he would be.
See again all this because you always put a woman on a pedestal. If you happen to watch the film Hitch, you can see for yourself how Albert Brenneman starts dreaming in front of Allegra Cole and the date doctor yells at him and asks him to be present in the room.

Always try to start of conversations first, you don’t pick up women. You meet them. So develop an attitude to try and start a conversation first. Let her prove her worth, let her show that she is really an interesting person. You are not going out with her only because she is good-looking. She needs to impress you first. Pal, for how long can looks be a source of attraction? You surely are going to get bored with a dumb-ass.

Fear of rejection.
Most men don’t even make an attempt to try because they fear rejection. They think the girl might slap him, embarrassing him in front of others. Dealing with this problem is again really important; again I tell you women aren’t any superior to you. They are also human, they have emotions too and they will surely reciprocate.

And the most important thing is looks don’t matter as long as you have a powerful personality. Women can’t resist being attracted to you. They have been waiting all their lives to meet ‘The man’ who not only creates attraction, but has got the powerful personality to make it last. They have been chased by a lot of losers, who kiss their asses often. They don’t want ass lickers; they want the real man, who can lead them. To whom they can hand over themselves, because he has got the power to lead them. Groom yourself and see the change around!

Cheers,
Natty Boy